Mutual Masturbation

Masturbation need not be something that you do only when you are alone. We can distinguish two types of mutual masturbation:
1. masturbating with partner during intercourse or
2.  masturbating in front of Your partner.
In first case masturbation is a supplement to intercourse, rather than a replacement in many healthy sexual relationships as well as an productive step to a stronger relationship.

Masturbating your partner in the way he or she enjoys is an important part of lovemaking, and many women like being masturbated to orgasm before penetration. It will break down inhibitions and allow you to get even closer to each other. Also it always is a good foreplay and a road to a better sex.
Many people find the sight of their partner masturbating highly erotic. It can also be very instructive to discover how your partner reaches orgasm alone, as this will be the best method for you to adopt when you are masturbating him or her.

It’s also a way of sharing the most intimate and personal of activities. In this sense sharing masturbation can be an act of love rather than one of rejection.

Masturbation Prelude

I’ll give You few more interesting stories and facts regarding masturbation. Virtually all males masturbate, though some more frequently than others. Males usually start masturbating quite early, though most don’t ejaculate until around age 12 to 15 y.o.

Frequency typically peaks around puberty and it usually continues throughout adulthood, even when other forms of sexual activity are available.

Frequency tends to drop with age. It is explained with the fact of descending of sexual wish and activity in all adults (male or female) with ages. Common misconception is that only lonely and unpopular men and boys masturbate.

This is far from the truth and anyone who tells you he doesn’t masturbate probably feels guilty about his self-pleasuring.

Causes for such behavior!? Inhibitions and probable prejudice from a childhood when masturbation was considered a “bad” thing and/or thinking of masturbating as an intimate gesture thus making it hard to talk about. But the clear fact is that both married and single people masturbate, and one’s level of masturbation does not necessarily depend on how often one has intercourse.

As long as You are in touch with yourself and Your sexuality there is nothing to worry about.

Lesson 1 – relax, masturbation is not anomaly it’s, if nothing else, natural need of Your body.

Lesson 2 – Next, for Your pleasure, You need to be familiar with Your private parts and how they can be stimulated during masturbation or regular sex:

Penis – the penis is made up primarily of spongy tissue, which becomes engorged with blood during erection. Two or three inches of the penis are rooted inside the body in the pubococcygeus muscle (PC muscle) and it is possible to strengthen this muscle for stronger erections, stronger orgasms and better ejaculatory control.
Testicles – are Your sperm production area. They hang down, away from the body and as you prepare to ejaculate, the testicles are pulled toward the body. Stimulating testicles especially during ejaculation is highly pleasurable.
Prostate – is a gland that lies at the center of your pelvis and is highly sensitive to sexual stimulation.

During erotic stimulation, the prostate becomes increasingly aroused. The closer you are to orgasm, the more sensitive the prostate is. About 1/3 of your ejaculate comes from the prostate. The prostate can be stimulated externally or through the anus.

Perineum – is the area between the base of the testicles and the anus. This area can be very sensitive to sexual stimulation, especially during orgasm. It is also used when You want to delay ejaculation.
Pubococcygeus (PC) Muscle – it is actually a group of muscles that run from your pubic bone in front to your tailbone in the back. It is the muscle that contracts when you ejaculate, moving the semen up through the penis and out of the body.
Anus – Due partly to it’s proximity to the prostate gland and partly to its own high concentration of sensitive nerve endings, the anus is a highly erogenous zone for many men.

Lesson 3 – I’ll make a difference here between masturbation on Your own and masturbation during sexual intercourse with Your partner or in front of Your partner. We’re talking here predominantly about masturbation as sexual activity involving only one person. As for the mutual masturbation check this page.

Now You know it’s perfectly normal to do it and You know Your private parts and how they react to stimulation, there is a question of (in a lack of better word) how to!?

Sexual fantasy is a key thing in masturbation.

Males in general react much better to audio-visual stimulation than plain fantasy. Thus it is widely spread the use of pictures and videos of pornographic nature, as well as magazine covers with gorgeous women to make a sexual fantasy much stronger and pleasurable.

The ability to create sexual fantasies that stimulate sexual activity is essential to pleasurable masturbation.

The preferences of every individual are different and can be varied, depending on your mood, setting and experiences. Don’t be alarmed if you find that you are turned on by subject matter that may be considered taboo. Remember that Your getting in touch with Yourself here probably on more intimate level than during regular sex with Your partner.
Many men enjoy masturbating using a lubricant, rather than dry.

Others learn to masturbate before they think of using a lubricant and never feel a need to include lubricants.

However it is a matter of personal choice. As for the lubricants pre-ejaculate is an excellent lubricant, although the supply may be somewhat limited.

Hand lotion or vaseline can be used, though, since these contain oils, they are probably not the best choice if intercourse with a condom is to follow. A clear, water based gel, such as KY gel, is made for this purpose and does not destroy condoms.
Some men enjoy using devices while masturbating a vibrator, a shower massage unit or similar.

Many of these devices produce an interesting, though short-lived effect.
However anything from lubricants and devices to positions and techniques is a matter of personal choice, just remember it’s all about You and Your pleasure.

Now we can talk about positions and techniques.…

Masturbation & Jealousy

Many women feel guilty about masturbating, as if they are betraying their partner. In a relationship, you don’t have to do everything together.

Partner Induced guilt

If masturbation isn’t used as an escape, but as a search for balance, then you both partners will be at ease, and can experience a healthy sex life without the tension. Whereas frustration caused by inadequate sex can cause you to resent your partner, and even wish to turn away from sex with him or her.

Is it wrong to masturbate if you are married or in a relationship? People who masturbate aren’t necessarily lonely nor have incompetent partners! A partner sometimes might have trouble accepting their partner masturbating because they interpret it to be a sign of dissatisfaction with their performance.

This is a reaction of jealousy and fear. “What does she need me for?” However, sometimes each member in a relationship needs to get in tune with their own desires and preferences sexually before having the confidence to do so together. Then they can better communicate this with their partners.

If you or your partner is interested in learning more about masturbation, it is best to discuss it openly and acknowledge each others feelings around the topic. Without communication, masturbation can be read as a sign of anger, alienation, or dissatisfaction. Underlying these feelings is often a feeling of fear of abandonment so have patience, but stay your ground. You help others by becoming more confident and able to communicate your desires.

It is perfectly natural to continue to masturbate even when one has a regular partner and a satisfactory sexual life. Masturbation can be considered another great way to get off, a temporary substitute for sexual relations.

If your partner isn’t sexually available (pregnancy, periods, conflict) but masturbation can also have special advantages; it brings another type of pleasure and allows a person to enrich her/his sexual life, while getting to know her/his own body better and to master it.

What is Masturbation?

Nobody talks about it, everybody does it, and no one admits it. What am I talking about?

The first and most basic sexual practise we all enjoy is of course masturbation. So what exactly do we mean by this term? That’s a good question. And one which has many delightful answers.

Where does the term Masturbation come from?

According to one interpretation, the word masturbation is believed to derive from either the Greek word for penis, mezea or the Latin word for hand, manus and the Latin for disturb, turbare.
Giving it a rough meaning of either hand disturbance or penis disturbance.

Another etymology is based on the Latin term manu stuprare, which means to defile with the hand. The little-used synonym manustupration is also derived from manus stuprare.

Examples of Masturbation

Masturbation can consist of touching, penetrating, caressing or rubbing your genitals for pleasure and excitement. Most women think of masturbation as focusing on the vulva or clitoris. However, stimulating other parts of the body can be considered masturbation as well.

Masturbation can include almost any activity which excludes intercourse with a partner such as:

Rubbing the clit, vulva, inner and outer labia with the hand
Fingering yourself or your partners vagina
Using a vibrator externally on almost any part of the body
Using a dildo to penetrate and massage the vagina
Fingering or caressing the anus.
Using a dildo or vibrator to simulate the anus
Using other parts of the body
Using surfaces, furniture or natural settings to achieve climax
Using a combination of techniques or toys to enhance and blend stimulation
Masturbating with a partner or in a group separately
Masturbating with a partner or group and physically stimulating one another…